Thank you for removing the thread tag.
For anyone that's interested in the perspective I'm coming from in how anonymous online messaging and gender play out in
Souls, try reading
this Kotaku piece by Ario Elami from two years ago. I did not write it, edit it, or publish it, but I'm willing to say my and others' experiences served as material for it, through conversations with the author and otherwise. It's not so old to be outdated in the information or opining presented in any way, but nonetheless everything discussed remains exactly as described to this day: these past few weeks I played through the
Dark Souls trilogy again, where
II is the only game of the three that doesn't have a simple "play offline" toggle in its configuration options, and so I had to interact with the online populace. In front of every woman, there is harassment; in front of every
environmental object that can be somehow linked to a woman, there is harassment. Many frame themselves as the kind of "lighthearted" hee-hee-butthole wordplay despite the inherent associations to assault, but some drop the artifice even in the limited context of what the messaging allows for and make sure you understand they are talking about rape or imprisonment of specifically women, as described by the messager.
II might be the worst for it for a confluence of factors, or it might not be, but every game I've seen it happen, and it continues to be specifically celebrated by the userbase, through the internal rating systems and in the culture surrounding the games.