On Lightning punching Snow: this scene is both a blessing and a curse for the character. It plays into the aspects I mentioned before in things I think should be portrayed, but given that both times Lightning decks Snow come early in the story, it became a sort of "calling card" for the character in people's minds who at that point were probably looking for things to latch onto about her. Given how many uncharitable opinions XIII cultivated, those impressions then turned into dim memories, and maybe remained all there was; should a player quit the game early on, Lightning will forever be defined as "the person who keeps hitting Snow." It both trivializes the severity of the act in how it should be looked at (there is an aspect here of people disliking Snow as a character and taking it favourably that his sister-in-law is physically abusing him) and negates the development both characters will go on to have as the game progresses. It also interacts with gendered roles and presentation in a way that's specific: this scene would never be treated as a humorous aside should it be Snow hitting Lightning instead; the only reason it's even in the game is because people feel it is "allowed" for a smaller in stature woman to physically assault a towering man--he "can take it" and "probably deserves it" if you're viewing that Snow needs to be held accountable for his irresponsibility and collateral damage at the game's beginning. I think it's inarguable that he does, and the game will not ignore it going forward--but championing Lightning's violence has always sat poorly with me in how I read the interaction. It is not a triumph or fist-pumping own on her part, but just another notch on her stressed beyond the breaking point psychology and mindset at this stage of the game.