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I Heard Her Call My Name - June 2025 Book Club Reading

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I Heard Her Call My Name by Lucy Sante is the 2024 memoir of the author's process of coming out and transition. Lucy Sante is a Belgian-American writer, critic, and artist. Sante was Born in Verviers, Belgium, migrated to the United States in the early 1960s. She worked in the mailroom and then as assistant to editor Barbara Epstein at The New York Review of Books. She became a regular contributor there, writing about film, art, photography, and miscellaneous cultural phenomena, as well as book reviews.

Sante has written and edited books and written lyrics and liner notes. Her books include Low Life: Lures and Snares of Old New York, a non-fiction book documenting the life and politics of lower Manhattan from the mid-19th century to the early 20th century; Evidence, the autobiographical The Factory of Facts, Walker Evans, Kill All Your Darlings: Pieces 1990-2005, Folk Photography (2009), The Other Paris (2015), Maybe the People Would Be the Times (2022), and Nineteen Reservoirs (2023). , Sante wrote lyrics for the New York City-based band The Del-Byzanteens.

After teaching in the Columbia MFA writing program, Sante taught writing and the history of photography at Bard College for 24 years before she retiring in 2023.

Sante lived as a man until announcing that she was transitioning to being a woman in 2021. She wrote on her Instagram account: "Yes, this is me, and yes, I am transitioning–I have joined the other team. Yes, I've known since at least age 11 but probably earlier and yes, I suppressed and denied it for decades.... I started...hormone replacement therapy in early May....You can call me Lucy (but I won't freak out if you misgender me) and my pronoun, thankyouverymuch, is she."
 
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Why not mention her career as a writer outside of NYRB, which is what she's probably best known for? She's written several books, notably among them Low Life, The Factory of Facts, Kill All Your Darlings, and Maybe the People Would Be the Times.

Anyway, this one took much less time for my library hold to come in than I expected, so I actually finished reading it last week. I'll come back with more thoughts after more people have had a chance to read, but I can at least talk a bit about why I chose this book. Like a lot of us (I think/hope), I try to read books from authors whose backgrounds are different than my own, because I feel that being exposed to more cultures and experiences helps us understand the world better and be more empathetic in how we interact with other people. I don't really talk about this aspect of my reading habits too much because I don't want to look like I'm virtue signaling, but it's a thing I do try to be conscious of. In this particular case, I was intrigued about the story of someone who not only transitioned at the age of 66 (or 67, can't remember exactly which off the top of my head), but also someone who did so as an already publicly known figure in the literary world. I hope you folks are interested in her story too. It felt like a natural book club pick, so I'm glad I remembered when we were making our lists for this year!
 
Why not mention her career as a writer outside of NYRB, which is what she's probably best known for? She's written several books, notably among them Low Life, The Factory of Facts, Kill All Your Darlings, and Maybe the People Would Be the Times.
Apologies, you're right. I should have included that. I've updated the first post.
 
Just got my copy. I do not recognize any of the books or stories you two have referenced so I'm a little worried this is going to be New York heavy. I lived there for a bit so I know some references but I dunno. Just over 200 pages is nice too.
 
It isn't particularly New York-y, though there are some instances where she refers to people she spent time with only by their first names, like Cynthia and Pat (who were founding members of important no wave band Bush Tetras), or Jean-Michel (Basquiat). But they're really only mentioned in passing, not as particularly important characters in the story. It adds a bit of shading to the scenes she's writing about, but I don't think it's going to affect anyone's read too much if you don't know them.
 
I finished it earlier this week. What a hell gender dysphoria must be! All the angst Sante went through during their entire life really shows through in this slim volume. I literally cannot imagine. I mostly don't think about my gender, sex, or how/if I am doing them correctly. This book helped make clear what a privilege that is. I'm so glad she was able to finally be herself.
 
Hey, I never came back to talk about this. Probably should get those thoughts down before it's August.

I'm not really sure what I expected from this book, to be honest -- like I mentioned upthread, I was intrigued specifically by Sante's story as an older person. Pretty much all of the trans writers I've read have been younger so it's a fairly unique perspective (to the best of my knowledge, anyway). Like False said, I can't imagine what it must be like to live for decades -- through multiple marriages, children, job changes, etc -- as someone who you know you aren't. I'll admit that when I started the book, it was easy to want to see a lot of it as "just" an autobiography, but then there'd always be the constant examples of dysphoria at every step which lead to a very subtle sense of horror as you realize that it's the autobiography of only half a person. Of a true life unlived, of impossible opportunities missed.

I was concerned that in transitioning as an older adult, she'd run into much more resistance from the people around her than a younger person might, but I got the impression that (potentially unavoidable marital issues aside) overall the people in her life really seemed to accept it and be happy for her. Which is how it should be! The real conflict in the book happened every day of her life before coming out. Obviously transitioning and just existing as a trans person are their own battles, but I hope that the peace she finds in being her true self is a solid foundation to build on going forwards.
 
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